Love. Did it even have to do with anything? From the texts we have been reading, we can see the way they have changed. They seem more directed towards women and these stories about how women end up heat broken and betrayed my these deceiving men. Yet, somehow, this is what is popular during this time.
Even though most marriages were arranged at this point, clearly, love is not a factor. Stability and reproduction is the focus. But what if it were not arranged? My question is, as we can see from these texts and that we see a lot in films today, is it really love or lust? What defines love? In movies we see people meet and have one night fling and suddenly they are head-over-heels in love and they do not even know each other’s last name.
Bringing me back to these texts that we have observed, maybe they were a form of escapism. Ironic, but maybe women would rather read about this as more of instruction as to what not let happen in their lives. All these women that we read about usually end up heart-broken and sad and usually die from a broken soul. I don’t know. I never think that marriages should be arranged though, especially not now. However, you still see women and men getting married more out of convenience and financial stability rather than letting love be the foundation of it all. We look at couples still today, especially celebrities and hear about them getting married and divorced like it is no big deal. Was love ever a factor? Who knows, maybe will always be asking that question.
4 comments:
I think you make a good point about the nature of love and marriage here. Probably one of the main reasons people get married, besides “love” is for that increased stability. So when the bills pile up and nobody is happy, those same couples start fighting and end up getting divorced. Of course this could probably happen if they had been in love as well I suppose, maybe they got married too young and then grew up and away from each other. They may have been in love once, but who is to say that love is always for a lifetime? You will never know until you’ve lived your whole life anyway.
I enjoyed reading your post. I like that you took the stance where you questioned what love is and what it has ever really had to do with "it." It seems very true that the women in these narratives are feeling lust and not love. Your insights about the love-marriage connection, even in modern society, were insightful and interesting.
I enjoyed reading your post. I like that you took the stance where you questioned what love is and what it has ever really had to do with "it." It seems very true that the women in these narratives are feeling lust and not love. Your insights about the love-marriage connection, even in modern society, were insightful and interesting.
I think you make a really great observation when you state that many people today get married for convenience and stability. It seems that the goal of the arranged marriage was for the same purpose. So, have we really come that far? I still think we are better off today. Some may miss the mark by marrying for the wrong reasons, but at least wisdom can play a part along with a true commitment of love and respect.
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